With Summer around the corner many of us get happy! We are delighted that the warmth is upon us, the ocean, the flowers, ice cream ect… We exchange our winter clothes for our summer clothes, and carry on, but how many people take the time to actually go through their clothes from the past that they haven’t worn in several years? I personally have a few sizes of clothes in my attic that I will be giving to charity, not just because of good will, but because it is a great way of shedding the past. When we keep clothes from our past, it means that we are not accepting of who we are in the present. Perhaps you liked the size you were years ago, and are holding onto the thought that you will one day get back into them, but have you ever considered that with that thought process, you are essentially saying that you are unacceptable now? We can never change things from a place of unworthiness. Change comes from loving yourself right were you are! I know it is difficult to look in the mirror and find that your body shape has changed. It’s supposed to! We need to honor and love ourselves every step of our development. When we are in a state of love, there is nothing we can’t create. Therefore, kiss the mirror every morning and be thankful for the 50 trillion cells in your body, for maintaining your health, and for the endless restoration that goes on in our bodies. Our cells most important job each day and every day is to repair and restore. Be grateful, be thankful, and thank God for his creation of you! Your body is perfect just where you are. If you want to evolve, than shed the things that don’t serve you anymore. Shed your past to make way for the beautiful present, because it’s in the present, in the state of love, where new creations can develop. Get rid of old thoughts, start fresh with new ones about where you go from here. Your cells respond to your thoughts. The question is, what are you telling them to do? Are your thoughts stuck in the past? It’s all how you look at it. Roseglasses
Many people are suffering more these days due to changes in our economy. Often it alters our relationships, by adding a lot of stress, anxiety, fear, anger, etc…. How can we honestly make things better when our lives seem to be going in the opposite direction? The other morning I was listening and singing to some very uplifting music while I was waiting my turn in a drive-thru. I was interrupted by a cars horn blasting, but didn’t pay too much attention to it because I like where I was in my mind, and thought it had to do with someone else. Then, again I heard the horn blasting and to my surprise, I realized that it was the girl behind me telling me to move up!! I rolled my window down more, and shouted back to her to relax, I can’t place my order yet because of the car in front of me and because my car couldn’t get to the window yet. I thought jeez! At that moment, I realized that I had given away my peace of mind, and mirrored her state of mind, which did not add to anyone feeling any better. I thought to myself, OK that didn’t go well, so I decided to turn it around. When it was my turn to pay for my order, I decided to do something different, something I’ve not done before. I decided to also pay for the order of the girl behind me too, with hope that her day might be transformed a bit, and most importantly, that she pay it forward. I don’t know if it altered her state at all, but to me it was worth a try. Perhaps in doing so, we can all save ourselves from falling down so quickly, when faced with adversity. Can you imagine what things would be like if each and every one of us did something unexpected for one other person in the world? Could it be that we have the power to create our destiny, desires, and life, and actually create a better world? Why ……. yes. It’s all how you look at it.
We are one consciousness. We all have hearts, we all have the same body structures, we all have families, and we all live in light and darkness. The list goes on and on, but the most incredible thing that we all share is VIBRATION. We are all balls of energy, and we can use that energy to create on a vast scale, good feelings or bad feelings. For example, have you ever been in an argument with someone, and someone else enters into the arena, and adds, so to speak, another log to the fire, and then a small fire gets ignited? It then gets bigger and bigger as more people jump on the band wagon. Now consider for a moment, if people brought good energy to the conversation, after a while, the argument would lose energy and eventually the fire would go out.
We can influence the greater feelings of the world. What vibration are you adding to the world? What does our world need now? I feel a song coming on. “What the world needs now, is love sweet love…….., and Good, good, good, good vibrations…..
Want to feel better? Want to make a difference? Ask yourself, if the energy you are surrounded by is giving you energy or draining it. Then ask yourself how am I contributing? There is an abundance of well-being at your finger tips. “Seek and you will find”.
It’s all how you look at it.
What does it mean to be fifty? Well, I’ve recently arrived there, and now I can finally answer that question from my perspective that is. For me, I feel as if another curtain has been lifted, and suddenly things make more sense, and answers to questions asked long ago are realized. There’s a bit of a sense of urgency to achieve things I’ve set out to do, however, with the wisdom I’ve gained, I know I don’t need to work at it, rather think what I want to do, spend time imagining what it will be like when it happens, and then, move to the next thought of whatever it is I’m doing. I learned that staying in the moment will keep me from regretting wasting precious time.
While it’s easy to let your mind travel to the past or future, it keeps you from living in the present, and now is all that we have . Often people spend there entire live’s hoping, and wishing, and regretting things, but at the same time they’ve also lost a lot of time not living in the moment. Once this moment is over, it won’t be back.
I attended a “Celebrate Your Life Conference”, about four years ago in Phoenix AZ, and one of the classes I took, was offered by Byron Katie, author of “Loving What Is”. Katie came up with a formula of four questions to ask yourself, when you are unhappy about something. What unfolded was tremendous insight to not only the 40-year-old lady who volunteered to discuss her issue, but to every person in that room. The lady said that she was angry at her mother for leaving her, when she was 10 years old for one year. Katie asked her the first question. Is it true? Yes, she replied. 2. Are you absolutely sure it’s true? Pause……Yes, she replied. 3. Who would you be without that thought? As the lady searched her mind, she explained how she would feel more at ease, happier, and probably wouldn’t have the fear of being abandoned in her relationships. 4. Turn it around. While the lady put herself in her mom’s shoe’s, she discovered that her mother was young, and needed to get away to pull herself together in order to be a better mom to her, but more importantly, the lady realized that she herself, had left her mother for 30 years because she couldn’t forgive her!!! It was a very powerful moment, and the girl wept in grief. You see, she had spent 30 years of her own life, not living in the moment, but rather resenting her mom, and creating a great wall between them. The truth of the matter came forth, and we all realized the importance of living in the present moment. To be 50 can be nifty, and it certainly comes with wisdom too. It’s all how you look at it.
According to Deepak Chopra, what we see we become, so choose carefully. If you pay closer attention to one’s own behavior throughout the day you can see how this is true. If at any point in the day you find yourself getting angry at someone, try to step back and observe your behavior for a minute. Where did that come from? Are you really mad at someone, or did you very recently see something you didn’t like? Perhaps you had a bad encounter with someone and now have become what you saw.
Several months ago my son and I were waiting in the car at a drive through to get a cup of coffee. My window was down and I heard a big commotion to my left. I looked over and saw a man yelling at what appeared to be his three young children. Two kids were in the backseat of the van, and a very young child was in the front in a diaper standing up on the seat. The man was standing outside of the van yelling at the kids, and then I saw him push the baby to sit down, in an inappropriate way to say the least. I was, shall we say, a bit enraged! At that moment it was time to drive up and place our order. Ripped by what I just saw, I unintentionally and abruptly gave my order to the girl and my son started shouting from the back seat that he wanted a chocolate donut too, and I found myself very agitated that he interrupted me, and I shouted at him to be quiet! It was then, at that very moment, that I realized that I became what I saw earlier, and that that behavior didn’t belong to me. It makes you wonder all day and everyday, whether we truly understand someone or not. Perhaps that grumpy person we just saw or spoke to isn’t a …. (you know what), but rather a person who witnessed something ugly prior and simply became that. Now consider that you’ve been around someone who is like a Debby Downer for a while, and you become a downer for the rest of your encounters. What happens is then like a domino effect. We are responsible for what we put out in the universe. Question is what are we putting out? Collectively we are good and bad, and the one that wins is the one we pay most attention to. See for yourself. Try to be an observer of yourself. Listen and pay attention to your behavior during your interactions. What I have concluded from witnessing things all day everyday, is that I should choose carefully what I want to see, and when I do, I have a better day. Much like a movie, I like to choose what I want to see. With this information on hand, it makes for better communication, more compassion, understanding, as well as better relationship’s. Look at the company you keep. Look at the things you are drawn too, and ask yourself, is this contributing to the kind of behavior that makes me a better person? Is this behavior contributing to the well-being of our world? Each and every one of us has influence as to the way this movie we’re all playing in plays out. Let’s make it good! It’s all how you look at it.
Have you ever noticed how good you feel after finishing a job you set out to do? Not just a big job, like a project from work, but rather something as simple as washing dishes, cleaning out a closet, or even shoveling snow. I often find myself very centered when I’m doing something of that nature. It is in that moment when you are most closely in touch with your soul. Leading with your soul makes for a better walk in the park. On a daily basis we are all constantly bombarded with stimulus that makes it difficult for us to hear what our natural guidance system tries to communicate. Some of us deliberately turn on music, or the TV, to keep from hearing complete silence. Some people need the T.V. on just to go to sleep, but the greatest sound can be found in complete silence, or when you are completely focused on what you are doing. It’s the place where all answers lie, where peace resides, and where you are in perfect alignment with who you really are.
When people ask you who you are, we usually respond by saying what we do, or what we do for a living, but who we really are is a soul, living in a body, having a life experience. Then as we grow up, we find out things about ourselves that are good and not so good, and the not so good things tend to stick, especially if heard often enough. There is a children’s book called, “You Are Special”, by Max Lucado, that talks about this very thing. Everyday, all day small wooden people called Wemmicks would stick either gold stars or grey dots on one another. The talented, pretty ones usually got gold stars, and the Wemmicks who were tarnished, ugly, and couldn’t do much would receive grey dots. It became quite evident to all who each Wemmick was. Good or bad, if you were covered in grey dots, that meant that you were useless, no good, and those Wemmicks probably walked with their heads down in disgrace with low self-esteem, and most likely had no energy to do anything because of what others thought about them. But one day, the main character Punchinello, met Lucia who had no stickers at all. People tried to give her gold stars but they wouldn’t stick, so then they tried to give her grey stickers, but they wouldn’t stick either. Punchinello realized that that’s the way he wanted to be too. He didn’t want anybody’s marks. He quickly asked how she did that, and she replied, “Everyday I go see Eli. Eli is a wood-carver, and told Punchinello to go see him for himself. So off he went to meet Eli, with much fear and anxiety, and discovered that Eli recognized him right away, and was very happy to see him! Eli scooped down to pick him up and said, Let me look at you. Hmmmm. “It seems like you’ve been given some bad marks”. Punchinello said, “I didn’t mean to, I really tried hard!” Eli lovingly said “You don’t have to defend yourself to me, child. I don’t care what the other Wemmick’s think, and you shouldn’t either”. “Who are they to give you stars or dots?” All that matters is what I think about you, and I think you are pretty special. Punchinello laughed and said, why me, my paint is peeling, I can’t jump, I can’t walk fast ect… Then Eli put his hands on Punchinello’s shoulders, and spoke softly. “Because you’re mine. That’s why you matter to me.” No one had ever looked at him that way before. Eli explained to him that the stickers only stick, if they matter to him, and stickers don’t stay on Lucia because she decided that what I, (Eli), thought was more important than what others thought. Punchinello discovered that Eli was his maker, and when he changed his thoughts about himself the stickers started to fall off.
Therefore, don’t be afraid to go deeper within yourself, there are gems waiting to be discovered that will help you on your journey in life. Some people have to meditate to get there, but you can absolutely get into alignment with your soul, by enjoying what you are doing in the moment too, like preparing a meal, gardening, singing ect… Checking in with your own God-given guidance system is the place where alignment, peace, and answers reside. The more often you go there, makes for a lovelier walk through the park. It’s all how you look at it.
I stayed up late last night watching a program on the little lives of Haiti, before and after the Earthquake. I cried and cried, and was in absolute ahh at how these orphan children cope, and live in the absolute worst conditions! My immediate thought was, how dare anyone of us complain about anything!!! I walked around my house looking at each and everything that I own again with a new level of awareness, with so much gratitude, and deep sadness for those littles souls. Although I’ve always felt blessed, and grateful, I now feel like an undeserving Queen compared to a day in a life of an orphan in Haiti. Just watching the long process of one of them beginning to trust a missionary, and then see their hearts fill with joy, and hear their laughter, moved me very deeply. It made me realize just how special each and every one of us are. How could we take each other for granted? Don’t we realize how short life is? What are we doing with our lives? Are we using it wisely? Have we dedicated at least some of our time to helping those in need? Are we acting like brothers and sisters, who love each other unconditionally? Are we there for one another when we should be? We need to all hold hands. We need to feel the pulse of our world, and make sure that we are all healthy, loved, supported, and grateful.